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Hey, common Leaders, welcome back.
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Well, I've hit the record button.
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It's the first episode of the After Show, a show designed to summarize a little bit about a recent podcast episode that I have but also add some of my own insights.
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I talk about it in the trailer episode that really it is about Monday morning quarterbacking just a little bit and that it's an opportunity for us to kind of sit down, work together and just enjoy our cup of coffee and learn a little bit more and dive deeper into some of those things that were there.
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I recently had a conversation with Chris Widener on the Uncommon Leader podcast and it was a fantastic episode.
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When I had a chance to chat with Chris, I was humbling.
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No doubt he's a Hall of Fame speaker.
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He's a two-time best-selling author, he is also a ghostwriter for John Maxwell, one of the authors that I love to read myself, and he was a Seattle Supersonics ball boy when he was a kid as well, so the story that impacted him when he was a child as a leader today was pretty cool.
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If you get a chance, you ought to take a listen back to that episode.
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We actually had a chance to even reminisce a little bit about some of the players on that team, jack Sigma, and a specific story that he had in there about DJ Dennis Johnson, who became a favorite of mine when he went to the Boston Celtics.
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I've been a longtime Boston Celtics fan, but take a look back at that episode coachjohngallaghercom forward slash podcast and you can find that interview that I had with Chris Widener.
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What I really appreciated about my conversation with Chris was, uh, an upcoming event that he was planning and heading up.
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It's called revive 25.
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And ultimately, as he defined it as a massive revival, the opportunity to bring 15,000 or more Christians together in one place and millions more online, really to think about how we can have a bigger impact as Christians in our communities, in our country and in our world today.
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I'm pretty jazzed up about what's possible, and he said that's going to be out in the next 90 days.
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They were just getting the website launched up.
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If you get a chance, go to revive25.org and take a look at that.
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I think it's going to be a phenomenal event.
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But for me, as I kind of sat back and reflected on that a little bit, it reminded me a little bit of goal setting, and that's what I want to talk to you a little bit about today, something I think will have an impact on you and how we sometimes get goal setting wrong, and maybe some tips on how we could get it right.
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For me, one of the goal setting problems, if you will, that I often run into is perfection.
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I think there are other things like fear of setting goals, that I might not get it right and I might be ridiculed for it, or the accountability that comes along with setting goals that I might not get it right and I might be ridiculed for it, or the accountability that comes along with setting goals and having someone really hold me accountable makes me uncomfortable as well.
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But ultimately, I think that idea behind perfection is one of the things that keeps me from setting and achieving goals at times.
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Very specific is the reason for this podcast.
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Right here, I've been working with my strategist at Brand Builders Group on improving the performance of the Uncommon Leader podcast, and one of the goals that I had for 2025 was to double the number of episodes that I recorded in 2024.
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Now it's a weekly podcast.
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That means I was going to have to do two a week.
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Here we are really early March and I'm hitting the record button for the first time, the perfection that sat in my mind was that I wanted things perfect before I hit that record button.
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I wanted the name of it to be perfected and I wanted the content to be perfected and I wanted to know, should I have it be an interview format or some other, when really what I needed to do was just to hit the button and get started.
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It reminds me when I think about that, hit the button, hit that record button.
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It reminds me of one of my favorite scenes from the movie Rush Hour, where Chris Tucker was there and soon Lee was the girl who had a bomb strapped to her chest and the villain was in the same room, about 15 miles away with a button to explode that bomb that was on the jacket that she was wearing and Chris Tucker Trish Tucker in the show.
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He brought her close to her, the villain, and said go ahead, push the button.
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And then, even soon, lee got into it and said, yeah, push the damn button.
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Well, that's something that keeps in my mind when I get things started like that.
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And even my coach said John, just push the daggone button, push record and get started.
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Don't worry about perfection, just keep practicing and you'll get there.
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So here we are today, ultimately, and we got started.
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But that was a little bit of digression there in terms of talking about the movie.
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Let's talk about goal setting just a little bit.
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I know that you've heard many of the listeners of the Uncommon Leader podcast have heard this acronym SMART specific, measurable, action-oriented, realistic and time-based.
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But I'm here to suggest to you just a little bit of a modification to that acronym.
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My Boston friends will appreciate this just a little bit, but imagine if they were saying SMART.
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It comes out as SMOT wicked SMOT is how they start to talk about it, and I'm suggesting that's how we spell the SMART acronym.
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Going forward, it's still specific, it's still measurable, it's still action-oriented and time-based, but we're going to replace the R with an H and that H, rather than being realistic, that H, is going to be hard.
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We're going to choose something hard or we're ultimately going to say something to the effect of heaven.
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We're going to need your help to get that done.
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We're called to be uncommon leaders.
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We're not called to set realistic goals.
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Realistic is not what it is that changed the world.
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It's hard that changes the world and sometimes that requires intervention, if you will, with some of the goals that we set.
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Look, I think about this and I think about a book I just read, just finished up, by Craig Groeschel Bold Prayers and he asked a question.
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Inside of that book he said if all the prayers that you prayed over the last week were to be answered, how would the world be different?
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And I just thought that was a great challenging question.
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I want to use a question like that just in terms of your goal setting.
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If all of the goals that you've set have come to fruition for you, how would your world be a different place?
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Would it be something that is better?
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Would it be something that's just better for you?
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We're really looking to make an impact on the world and not just a realistic impact.
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So I want to challenge you to really change that up to the letter H when you think about that.
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How would things look different if you were to achieve a hard goal?
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Some of the things I think about is even when we're setting those goals.
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Imagine, if you will let's go back to a fitness goal setting a goal of losing weight.
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A realistic goal for losing weight might be to lose three pounds in four months.
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A hard goal might be to lose 15 pounds in four months, if you don't achieve that goal of 15 pounds, you only get to 12.
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Did you really lose?
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I don't think so.
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That's the way to look at this in terms of understanding those hard goals.
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Even when you don't get there, you'd normally get farther than you would if you just set a realistic goal.
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So what is it about those hard goals?
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Look, if I bring a scriptural reference and it was something that was in my daily reading today was Matthew 28, 19, the great commission.
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Ultimately, when Jesus called the disciples, he said we are to go and make disciples of all nations.
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He didn't say a few nations, he didn't say some nations.
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He didn't say your city, he said all nations.
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That's a hard goal.
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There were 12 of them, ultimately that were set out to make that happen.
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It was not going to be an easy goal whatsoever.
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So you need to be a little bit uncomfortable in your chair.
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I think about this in a standpoint of when you set a realistic goal.
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You're like, yeah, I could achieve that, no problem, we'll get that thing done anytime.
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But when I set a hard goal, I got to sit forward and pay attention.
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I got to step outside my comfort zone and get into my learning zone.
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I have to learn a new skill.
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I have to look and get a coach to get something like that done.
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I have to make a change that I wouldn't have to make necessarily if I were just setting a realistic goal.
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So, just to summarize that SMOT goal specific, measurable, action-oriented, hard and time-based.
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Those are the things that you're looking for.
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Hey, once you've set those goals, how are you going to make sure that you get to success?
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I'm here to tell you I got three tips for you there as well to make sure you get there.
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First of all, let's write them down.
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Okay, those who write down their goals are 80% more likely, based on a study, to achieve their goals.
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I think that's a powerful statement.
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Just to write them down and see them on a regular basis.
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Second thing I suggest is a scorecard.
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I'm competitive, just like the after show was kind of named after my favorite sport of football.
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When they have the college football countdown or whatever it is after the show that goes over the highlights and talks about the great plays of the day.
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You need to set a scoreboard to see if you're winning or not and can tell how you need to make adjustments if you're not winning at the time.
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And then the third tip share it with somebody else.
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That's going to help you to hold accountable.
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Don't keep those goals inside yourself, but share them, and for me, that's something that I want to talk about here right now.
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With this podcast, I'm going to need your help.
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I've been talking about one of the things I want to do is double the number of episodes, and that's really about impact.
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And for me to do that, what I'm really looking to do is have more listeners, more viewers of this podcast to make it happen.
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So I'm here to state a goal today that I'm going to shoot for it's 1 million downloads and views by the turn of the decade.
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It's specific, it's measurable, it's action oriented.
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It's going to require me to do a lot of different things.
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It's going to require me to grow and grow my skills as a podcaster.
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It's time-based, it's way out there, no doubt about it, but it's a huge, it's a hard, it's a goal that's going to require intervention to get that done, and that intervention, a lot of times, is you.
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If you enjoy the Uncommon Leader podcast, I encourage you to share it, I encourage you to subscribe to it and I encourage you to take just a couple minutes to go out and write a review.
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A five-star review is very helpful.
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All these things help us to get it in the hands of more listeners and more viewers.
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And look, it's really not about me and about the million downloads.
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That's going to be the most important topic.
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It's about the impact that that million downloads is going to have.
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A million listeners are going to be impacted by some of the messages that come out of the interviews that I have with uncommon leaders like yourself, and also that come out some of the tips that I share, that I often share with my clients.
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I know that's going to be a big part of it, so I hope you've enjoyed the first after show.
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I hope you get a chance to share.
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Please do.
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It's something I think is going to be really cool in the future.
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Oftentimes I'll finish up with a quote or a scriptural verse that might leave you inspired.
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And, in light of the setting hard goals this week, I want to share from a poem that is attributed to Devin Bro, and I think I'm saying his name right.
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I'm not even really sure, but I think it's something that really is cool.
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It says starts off marriage is hard, divorce is hard.
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Choose your heart.
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Obesity is hard.
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Being fit is hard.
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Choose your heart.
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Being in debt is hard.
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Being financially disciplined is hard.
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Choose your heart.
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Communication is hard.
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Not communicating is hard.
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Choose your hard.
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Life will never be easy.
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It will always be hard, but we can choose our hard.
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Pick wisely.
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Hey Uncommon Leaders, thanks for spending a little bit of time with me today.
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Now let's go out and make it happen.
